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10 Genuine Ways Anyone Can Be Exceptionally Charming
Sure, everyone knows blunt, impolite, and even rude people who are somehow extremely successful. (I know a bunch of them.) But since we're all more likely to do business and build professional and personal relationships with people we like, we're naturally drawn to people who are polite, modest, agreeable, kind.

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Show genuine interest

Maintain eye contact. Smile when the other person smiles. Frown when they frown.

In simple, nonverbal ways, mimic the other's person's behavior--not slavishly, but because you're focus...

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Show a little vulnerability

Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They're even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.

They know that while some people may be,...

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Search for agreement instead of contradiction

Search for agreement instead of contradiction

Charming people don't actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement. 

Then, if it's appropriate, they gently share a different point of view, and i...

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The power of touch

Touch can influence behavior, increase the chances of compliance and make the person doing the touching seem more attractive and friendly.

Say you're congratulating someone; shaking ha...

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Admitting mistakes

Charming people don't mind serving as a cautionary tale. They don't mind being a source of laughter, for others and for themselves.

And they're also not afraid to look a little silly.&...

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Masters of social jiu-jitsu

Charming people ask sincere questions that make it easy to answer in a thoughtful, introspective way. They make you think, in a good way, about yourself, and in the process make you feel cha...

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The waiter test

If you really want to know how an individual treats people, take him to lunch. How he interacts with the waiter is a much better indication of his interpersonal skills than how he interacts with...

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Remember names

Charming people remember names and even small details, often to a surprising degree. 

The fact they remember instantly makes us feel a little prouder and a little better about our...

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Never name drop

Charming people may know cool people, but they don't talk about it. And that only adds to their charm.

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Always say less

Charming people already know what they know. They want to know what you know.

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Be Swift and Sweet

Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.

On your way out make sure that the other remembers you. 

A Simple Touch Can Go A Long Way

Touch is a physical way of indicating acceptance and if properly timed it can be very charming

There's nothing wrong with a handshake when you introduce yourself, but beyond that, don't abuse touch. Stick to safe zones like the outside of the arm and upper back, and when in doubt, just stick to those handshakes.

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Lack of Reliability and Follow Through

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Habits of People Who Build Extraordinary Relationships

Habits of People Who Build Extraordinary Relationships
  • Take the hit. Few acts are more selfless than taking the undeserved hit and few acts better cement a relationship.
  • Step in without being asked. ...