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10 Science-Backed First Date Tips To Make Your Date Great
Congratulations, you've worked up the courage to ask out that special someone and they've said yes. Now comes the really hard part: planning your first date. I know this can be super nerve-wracking. You want to plan your date to make sure you have a great time and show how much you're interested.

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The right place for your first rendez-vous

When choosing the right place for your first date, take into account the risk that things might not work miraculously well from the first try. Therefore, better go for simple places, like pubs, for...

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Keep the conversation going

If you are planning your first date with somebody, make sure to pay a special attention to the topics you want to engage in throughout the date. Keep the conversation smart and the exchange of expe...

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Shape your mindset

When going on a first date, make sure your mindset is a positive one, no matter what your previous dating experiences felt like. Embrace the fear of a possible failure while hoping for a pleasant o...

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Turn past experiences into valuable lessons

When preparing for a first date, try to think about whatever went wrong on your previous dates. Once you have those memories back, turn them into lessons that can help you improve and show your bes...

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Paint the best picture of yourself

Whenever you present yourself for a first time to another person, make sure that they have exactly the image that you want them to have of you. Ask for your friends' help if necessary, as they ...

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Body language on a date

Your body language can say more about you than your words will ever. Therefore, make sure that the other one understands exactly what you want him or her to understand when you are on a date by tak...

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Arose your date's interest

Making sure your date perceives you as being intelligent is a great way to ensure the success of the future relationship. So do not step back from showing to your date how curious you are whenever ...

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Compatibility in a relationship

While everybody is familiar with the fact that the opposites attract, it has been many times now stated that having a partner who does not possess the same traits as you can actually enable your r...

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Keep the fire burning

Keeping the fire burning in a relationship is related to the attraction the partners feel for each other, at all levels. One great piece of advice would be to make sure you are self-confident both ...

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Make your own destiny

Whenever it comes to relationships, nothing is ever sure. When met with failure, most individuals tend to take it as something dramatic, that they cannot change. However, research has shown that on...

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Build trust in your relationship

All relationships should be based on trust above everything else. Research has shown that one sure way to build trust in a relationship is by sharing the same taste in food as your partner. You mig...

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Choose Your Top Values

Select your top six to eight values. Some of these values may change as you face new situations.

Examples of values: financial security, compassion, health/fitness, nature, accomplishment,...

Think of the people you admire

Values can be personified in people that you love and admire. Identifying the specific values embodied by your heroes can inspire you to adopt those values for yourself. To uncover the values that you associate with your loved ones and role models:

  • Identify and write down six people who are important role models or valued connections for you.
  • Think of the values they embody. 

See a Career Counselor

Your values are a major determinant of career choice, work decisions, and career transitions, as each may lead you down a different career path. 

That’s why career counselors have a large toolbox of strategies and inventories, including values inventories to help match their clients to a compatible career area.

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On Commitment

Commitment begins with desire. Each person has to want it and be willing to sacrifice for the other. It takes shifting the way we view ourselves and giving up something, in order to g...

1. Positive Experiences

A great confidence and commitment builder in a relationship is a shared, positive experience with the person you love. Think of the identity of your relationship — how you and your partner perceive it to be.

Take the negative, funny things and turn them into positive experiences. And take the positive experiences and live through the memories and build toward new experiences.

2. Committing In Thoughts And Actions

There will be easy, seamless days, but there will also be conflict and struggle. Relationships take work. Value your time with your partner.

Go “all in” and think about what will make that person happy, ways to improve your relationship or to help ease their burden. Show with words and actions that you care. 

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You have an eye on the exit

You avoid anything that leads to a bigger commitment. You're always wondering: "if it goes wrong, how can I extricate myself easily from this relationship?

Because comm...

You gaslight your partner

The aim of Gaslighting is to deny the other person's reality or experiences. It is a sign that you don't really believe your partners' feelings are real. 

For example, if your partner says: "I'm really upset that you canceled our date", you respond with something like: "You're not really upset, it's your fault I canceled and you're just trying to blame me for it." 

You are known as a "serial dater"

You break up with partners on the slightest of issues, only to start dating another person right away and repeat the cycle. 

You don't want to be seen as a "player" but you can't seem to find someone who you can commit to.

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