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10 Unhealthy Relationship Myths to Stop Believing
Falling in love is easy. Maintaining a happy, healthy relationship? That's the hard part. And if you go into a relationship buying into myths like "opposites attract" and "happy couples never fight," you'll be setting yourself up for failure, says Charlie Bloom, a psychotherapist based in Santa Cruz, California.

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Happily Ever After

If you believe in that myth, you’re not going to take the responsibility required to create a great relationship.

You have to be ready and willing to work for your relationship. It doesn’t j...

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Beliefs About Change

People can change if they want to.

Remember that change can be scary, so it's important to be loving and supportive of your partner.

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Who's More Prone To Cheat

Not all men are cheaters, and believing so can make you less trusting and more paranoid of your partner.

If you want a solid bond, you have to trust your significant other and comm...

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True Love And Mind-Reading

Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. It’s up to you to tell them exactly what you need.

Just say “It would mean a lot to me if . .. .” and fill in the blank with whatever you need ...

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Commitment

Saying your vows and exchanging rings on your wedding day isn’t enough: You need to commit to your marriage every single day if you want a good relationship.

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Solving Relationship Problems

Women who deal with trust issues tend to wrongly think that marriage and babies will make their partners more committed. Having a baby may actually create new issues on top of the ones you’re alrea...

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Good Relationships Take Work

In the beginning of a relationship, you’re both putting your best foot forward. But eventually your flaws start to show, and your partner has to learn how to deal with them.

Recognizing th...

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Frequency Of Intimate Relationships

Everyone has different needs, so there is no correct frequency for sex. If you want to have sex more or less often, talk to your partner and figure out what works for you both.

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Happy Couples Do Fight

All couples have differences, and fighting is not a sign that you’re with the wrong person. It’s healthy to debate issues and accept that there will be disagreement.

What’s importan...

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'Opposites Attract' Beliefs

Although looking for someone who has the qualities you lack brings some benefits, it’s also a big plus to have similarities in your personal history, as well as interests in common. 

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Perfect Relationsh And Conflict

Lack of conflict may just mean that you’re not dealing with existing issues. And research indicates that couples who report no conflict are not very happy over time.

Don't shy away from difficult conversations. Learning how to disagree in a healthy, productive manner is a key component of happy relationships.

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Good Relationships Take Work

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Your Partner’s Flaws

Loving your partner's flaws is not always realistic. Some people have habits that are slightly disgusting and impossible to "love." 

Simply accepting them and learning how to shrug them off and minimize their importance is much more realistic.

Going To Bed Angry

The context might be such that you just can’t solve a problem before bed. Be realistic and settle for an agreement to never go to bed without at least deciding when to continue the discussion or argument.

Also, some people actually need to cool down before they can continue a productive discussion, so taking a break could be wise.

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