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10 Ways to Start and Hold Dazzling Conversation With Anyone
Do you know how to start a conversation? Both starting and holding a conversation with people is like a sport. Just like football or soccer, you hone your conversational muscles. You train for difficult topics. You re-play miscommunications in your head. And just like elite athletes, you need a conversational game plan.

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Step #5: Exits

Step #5: Exits

Use bookmarks to end well. Examples:

  • Future Mentions: “Well, I can’t wait to see you at that ___ coming up—I’ll email you!
  • Inside Jokes: “It was g...

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Step #4: Evaluate Your Conversational Performance

Step #4: Evaluate Your Conversational Performance

After an event ask yourself what went well, what did you learn and who should you follow-up with so you can keep learning and honing your ability. 

This can help you identify patt...

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Step #3: Bookmarking

Step #3: Bookmarking

Use the ‘Bookmarking’ technique to create a deeper connection by adding verbal markers or emphasis to parts of the conversation:

  • Future Mentions: saying something that will...

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Better At Conversations

Better At Conversations
  1. Research has found that “Hello, how are you?” is the most effective conversation starter, but you can use context, like impressions or the location, in its place.
  2. Bring up topic...

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Step #2: Approach

Step #2: Approach

We make our first impression in the first 7 seconds of seeing someone, sometimes even before we interact. You can signal friendliness by:

  • Keeping your hands visible
  • Rollin...

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Step #1: Intention

Step #1: Intention

Purpose provides confidence, boosts influence and is contagious. To be more purposeful in your conversations answer the following:

  • Who is hosting the event?
  • What kinds of ...

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Make note of something pleasant

"This dip is delicious!" "Nice turnout for this event!"

There's something positive to say in nearly every situation, so find it...

Comment on the weather

The one exception to the no-negatives rule is the weather. 

If you're in the midst of a heat wave, cold snap, or torrential downpour, remarking on the unusual weather is often a good way to start a conversation.

Ask for information

"Excuse me, do you know what time the next session starts?" 

Even if you already know the answer, asking for information can be a great way to start someone talking with you, because everyone likes to feel helpful.

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Scott H Young

"People don’t judge you so much for who you are as they judge you for how you communicate yourself."

Scott H Young

Be Funny and Interesting

  • Humor: It takes a lot of practice until you can figure out the natural timing and flow of a joke. Practice makes perfect.
  • Interest comes from having an interesting life. You can be interesting by telling stories  or by simply being quick to bring up an interesting fact.

Interest is similar to humor whenever people discover something they didn’t expect.

Tell Great Stories

  • You need to have an interesting point to make it worthwhile.
  • Your most interesting point should be the last thing you say in your story.
  • Keep it short.
  • Keep it personal. People prefer stories about people they know.
  • The more you tell a story the better you get the natural timing and emphasis. 

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The Most Awkward Conversational Pratfalls

The Most Awkward Conversational Pratfalls
  1. Approaching for the first time someone you don’t know: focus on them, ask about them and approach humbly.
  2. Deciding when to end a conversation: you can end the conversatio...