We regularly find ourselves engaging with people whose core beliefs and values differ from our own. We might want to convince them to adopt our point of view, but this can lead to unproductive conflict.

However, people who disagree passionately can be easily trained to have productive interactions.

It involves using language that signals real interest in the other person's views.

• When people appear receptive, others find their argument more persuasive.
• Receptive language is also contagious as the other person will be more responsive in turn.
• People like others more when they seem receptive.

Signs of receptiveness:

• Acknowledgment: "I understand that..." or "I believe you're saying..."
• Hedging: It is indicating some uncertainty about the claim you want to make. "Going forward with this decision might..." is better than "Going forward with this decision will undoubtedly..."
• Positive terms: "It is helpful..." works better than "We should not..."
• Words such as "because" and "therefore" can set an argumentative or condescending tone.