Emotionally Intelligent People Use This Simple Psychological Trick to Shift Their Perspective and Control Their Emotions - Deepstash

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The “Changing Your Glasses Technique”

People who wear glasses know that a change in prescription is sometimes required, to allow them to see more clearly.

Sometimes, we need to do the same thing mentally: Your thoughts and emotions may cloud your vision and judgment. When that's the case, you need to change your glasses: that is, change your perspective.

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Irrational Thinking Has Unhealthy Emotional Consequences

The technique of changing your glasses is rooted in principles of cognitive psychology.

In the 1950s, psychologist Albert Ellis taught that irrational thinking is the root cause for many emotional problems. For example, irrational beliefs lead to unhealthy emotional consequences, like self-sabotage.

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An Example:

Ben has just lost his job. He’s devastated.

"What am I going to do now?" he asks.

He falls asleep at night, swimming in a sea of negative emotions.

In the morning, he wakes up distraught. "This stuff always happen to me," he thinks. "I have the worst luck." Ben's negative thoughts feed themselves. They create a raging storm in his head, preventing him from starting his new job search--or doing anything else productive.

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Rational Thinking Has Healthy Emotional Consequences

Rational thinking allows you to feel disappointment and frustration, but to a limited extent. You recognize that changes in circumstances, even big and serious ones, can happen everyday and to everyone, and can even lead to positive results.

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An Example:

Amy has the exact same fate and initial reaction to Ben.

She also wakes up in the morning with a knot in her stomach. But her response is different: She takes control or her thoughts and changes her perspective:

"That job was never going to take me anywhere," she thinks. "I'm sure I can find something better. Better yet, I've been wanting to go out on my own for ages. Maybe this is the jumpstart I need."

"Losing this job will be the best thing that's ever happened to me."

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Control Of Emotions > Control Of Situation

Despite facing similar situations, Amy's reaction is much more beneficial. By exercising emotional intelligence, she's able to change the way she views her circumstances. This simple perspective shift allows her to get her emotions under control, leading her to also take control of the situation.

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How To Break The Cycle Of Negative Thinking

Write it down.

Putting your thoughts in writing--with actual pen and paper, not just typing--can be a powerful way to force yourself to reckon with your feelings.

For example, let's imagine Ben takes some time to describe his feelings on paper. He may believe that he is truly unlucky and there's no chance he'll find another job. But the simple process of writing these thoughts can help him slow down, think, and re-evaluate the validity of those thoughts.

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How To Break The Cycle Of Negative Thinking

Talk to someone.

As you voice your thoughts and feelings to someone you trust, you may find yourself re-thinking your opinion as you speak.

And even if not, you give that person the chance to give valuable feedback, to put on their “glasses” for a minute. In other words, they help you see the situation through their eyes, which can help you to reassess your own thoughts and feelings.

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How To Break The Cycle Of Negative Thinking

Fill your mind with positive thoughts.

Negative feelings like self-doubt and self-pity can quickly spiral out of control. Focusing on positive thoughts can help you find balance.

For example, Ben could make a list of potential positive consequences from losing his job:

  • finding a new job he enjoys more than his previous one
  • having time to reconnect with family or friends

By focusing on these positive results, Ben can form an approach that's more optimistic, yet still realistic. It won't completely eliminate the negative feelings, but it can help keep them in their place.

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So, the next time you find your emotions working against you, ask yourself:

Do I need to change my glasses?

Because a change in perspective can help you see the world in a different light.

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