At the moment that you're in a position to make a decision that may be unpopular to the people you're working with you may think that it's wiser to not show any vulnerability, however, not showing vulnerability makes it easier for them to vilify you and your decision.

You need to make people see that you're working with them on a cognitive level AND on an emotional level. By admitting that that was a difficult decision to make, you become human again.

Regardless of what your decision will be some people will still blame you -- even for the things that you can't control. In order to protect your sanity, you need to distance yourself from conflict, even just a little, every day.

This could mean writing in a journal and meditating but for others, it could be praying and eating too much. It's really up to you how you'll do it as long as you set boundaries with total transparency.