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11 Ways To Diffuse The Tension And Get Along With Difficult Colleagues
When hiring new talent, most employers try to match their company's values and culture with potential employees. However, in a diverse office with workers of various interests and personalities, it's not uncommon to experience occasional tension. Toxic personalities aren't always obvious in the hiring process, and they may emerge well after an employee has been onboard.

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Start With A Casual Conversation

You’re trying to make the relationship better, so don’t jump to conclusions, be petty or accusatory. State what you’re experiencing in a non-threatening way and follow it wit...

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Ask For A Private Discussion

Instead of avoiding the person, seek to address the issue head-on because, if left unaddressed, it’s only likely to get worse. 

Ask for a private discussion with the other person to e...

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Always Be Direct

All people deserve to be treated professionally and with dignity. Remembering that being direct is not in contradiction with professionalism is imperative. Be direct, brave and respectful.

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Name specific examples

Set the stage by letting them know how much you value their partnership and that you want to collectively figure out a better way to work together. 

Bring specific work-related...

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Keep Them 'In The Know'

When a difficult colleague is someone demanding control and influence, one effective tactic is to feed him or her a steady stream of status updates. Keeping these colleagues in the know helps th...

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Understand Their Motivation

When faced with someone who is challenging or toxic, the first step is to understand what is motivating the behavior. 

Only then can you apply some authentic understanding which c...

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Document All Interactions

If a person is always pushing in a different direction, they are making it difficult to reach your objectives and achieve your vision. 

You should follow the&nb...

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Try Different Methods

Focus on effective communication. 

Professionally communicate through various channels (email, phone, text, etc.) and see which channels produce the best result. Proceed with thos...

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Define Your Boundaries

Define your boundaries when unacceptable behavior transpires. 

For example, when intimidation occurs, say, "Are you trying to intimidate me? If so, please stop. It is not accep...

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Difference Between Difficult and Toxic

For difficult personalities, communication is central to meeting expectations and resolving conflict. Understanding what drives the individual and what is important will allow you to more effect...

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Trust Due Process

Due process exists so that personnel-related liabilities do not go unaddressed.  Leaders and HR should asse...

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While real-time communication inside of a team might lead to solving faster some issues, it also has various disadvantages. 

For instance, having your colleagues come to ask you questions to which you feel pressured to answer on the spot leads to you being continuously interrupted, which results in being less productive and feeling stressed or even getting a burnout, as you try to do everything in proper time.

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The two most common types of manipulators are bullies and “victims”.

Bullies make you feel fearful and might use aggression, threats and intimidation to control you, while “victims” engenders a feeling of guilt in their target by acting hurt when denied something.

Gaslighting

The term refers to manipulation that gets people to question themselves, their reality, memory or thoughts. Gaslighters twist what you say and make it about them, hijacking the conversation or making you feel like you’ve done something wrong when you haven’t.

Gaslighted people often feel a false sense of guilt or defensiveness, as if they failed completely or did something wrong when they didn’t.

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What confidence is

Confidence is often seen as an elusive trait that others have but you don’t.

The truth is confidence is what appears after you go for what you want; it is the result of stepping...

Tall posture

How you hold yourself physically plays a big part in how you hold yourself mentally.

In order to begin to feel and look confident, stand tall, shoulders & head back, being aware of what is around you, and keeping hand motioning to an absolute minimum.

Change your environment

Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.

Think of places you frequent where you feel your most creative, happiest, relaxed. Aim to go to these places when you feel low in confidence.

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