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12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson: Summary, Notes, and Lessons - Nat Eliason
But the story of the golden calf also reminds us that without rules we quickly become slaves to our passions-and there's nothing freeing about that. Not long after the Soviet Union fell, and most of the world breathed a sigh of relief, Peterson began purchasing this propaganda for a song online.

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Ideologies ≠ Ideologues

Ideologies ≠ Ideologues

Ideologies: ideas that, disguised as science or philosophy, claim to explain the complexity of the world and offer remedies that will perfect it.

Ideologues: people who pretend ...

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Virtue ≠ Virtue Signaling

Virtue ≠ Virtue Signaling

Jordan Peterson observed that virtues aim for balance and to avoid the extremes of the vices. Cultivating judgment about the difference between virtue and vice is the beginning of wisdom.

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Order and Chaos

Order and Chaos

Order is where the people around you act according to the established social norms, remaining predictable and cooperative. Society is simultaneously structure and oppression.

Chaos ...

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Balancing Freedom And Social Groups

One can transcend blind adherence to social norm, while avoiding the pitfalls of its opposite extreme, nihilism. It is possible to find sufficient meaning in individual consciousness and experience...

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Rule 01: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back

Rule 01: Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders Back

We evolved and always will be in a dominance hierarchy. The part of our brain that keeps track of our position in the hierarchy is therefore ancient and fundamental, modulating our emotions, though...

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Practical Tips To Straightening Up

  • Establish a routine. Uncertainty and erratic sleeping and eating habits can interfere with the brain’s functioning. Stable and reliable habits lose their complexity and gain predictabil...

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Rule 02: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping

Rule 02: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible for Helping

Chaos, order and consciousness, the process that mediates between the first two, are fundamental parts of experience. Our eternal subjugation to the first two makes us doubt the validity of existen...

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Tips For Being Responsible For Yourself

  • Ride on the edge between order and chaos. Make life so engrossing you don’t notice the passage of time.
  • Make competent those under your care rather than protecting t...

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Rule 03: Befriend Those Who Want the Best For You

Rule 03: Befriend Those Who Want the Best For You

We have an unconscious propensity to let ourselves be influenced negatively thus the importance to avoid those who behave in a detrimental way.

Aspiring upward reveals the inade...

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Tips For Befriending Good People

  • Assume first that you are doing the easiest thing, and not the most difficult.
  • Do not deny someone’s responsibility for it exempts them of all agency and power. Things do...

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Rule 04: Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not Who Someone Else Is Today

Rule 04: Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not Who Someone Else Is Today

Most people are not the best at anything. Adopting a wide external frame of perspective to judging oneself is counterproductive and leads to unwarranted self-criticism.

Life is not a s...

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Rule 05: Do Not Let Your Children do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them

Rule 05: Do Not Let Your Children do Anything That Makes You Dislike Them

Rewarding desirable behavior is a good way to guide people’s behavior but it’s a lengthy process and requires people to behave desirably by themselves before it can be applied.

When it comes ...

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Tips For Encouraging Desirable Behavior In Children

  • Do not protect your children completely from fear and pain, try instead to maximize and make their learning efficient.
  • Time out can be an effective form of punishment,...

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Tips For Achieving Self Comparison

  • Have a goal.
  • Ask yourself what you do to avoid conflict and what you lie about.
  • Understand that we live within a framework that always def...

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Rule 06: Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World

Rule 06: Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World

The world is in a much bigger frame than your own life, if you cannot keep your own house in order it may mean you’re lacking in the skills to perceive and address problems appropriately.

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Tips On How To Straighten Your Life

  • Stop doing what you know to be wrong. Today. Don’t waste time questioning how you know that what you’re doing is wrong, if you are certain that it is.
  • Don’t try to reorganize th...

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Rule 07: Pursue What Is Meaningful (Not What Is Expedient)

Rule 07: Pursue What Is Meaningful (Not What Is Expedient)

What is expedient works only for the moment. It’s immediate, impulsive and limited. What is meaningful, by contrast, is the organization of what’s expedient towards a goal.

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Tips For Finding Meaningful Pursuits

  • Delay gratification and sacrifice. That’s a basic requirement of success.
  • Dissatisfaction with life comes from holding on to things that stop you from changing. However h...

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Carl Jung, psychoanalyst

“No tree can grow to Heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.”

Carl Jung, psychoanalyst

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Rule 08: Tell the Truth, or at least Don’t Lie

Rule 08: Tell the Truth, or at least Don’t Lie

To lie is to use language to bend the world into delivering what one thinks is necessary. Only a hopeless philosophy insists that reality can be improved through falsification.

To accept the ...

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Rule 09: Assume Others Might Know Something You Don’t

Rule 09: Assume Others Might Know Something You Don’t

If you listen without premature judgment, people will generally tell you their every thought and that’s “truth” in a sense. Because although someone’s memory is not an objective description ...

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Rule 010: Be Precise in Your Speech

Rule 010: Be Precise in Your Speech

When you don’t communicate properly you invite chaos, and it tends to accumulate leading to resentment.

Specify your destination, and chart your course. Admit to what you want. Tell th...

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Carl Rogers

“The great majority of us cannot listen; we find ourselves compelled to evaluate, because listening is too dangerous. The first requirement is courage, and we do not always have.”

Carl Rogers

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Rule 011: Do Not Overprotect Your Children

Rule 011: Do Not Overprotect Your Children

Children often do things that are dangerous and we shouldn’t always intervene because by placing themselves in danger they learn how to be competent and that is a way to safety.

We’re ...

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Rule 012: Be Present

Rule 012: Be Present

Set aside some time to talk and think about your problems and how it should be managed every day. Don’t think about it otherwise or you risk exhausting yourself on a single issue.

Be present ...

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Other Tips From Jordan Peterson For a Better Life

  • Consider that any hierarchy creates winners and losers. The winners are more likely to justify the hierarchy and the losers to criticize it.
  • Understand that hierarchy is ines...

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"To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open. It means deciding to voluntarily transform the chaos of potential into the realities of habitable order. It means adopting the burden of self-conscious vulnerability, and accepting the end of the unconscious paradise of childhood...It means willingly undertaking the sacrifices necessary to generate a productive and meaningful reality."

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Zen In The Arts

Zen has no goal. A world that focuses on destinations, that only cares about getting somewhere as fast as possible, becomes a world without substance.

Zen is a liberation from time. If...

Satori And The Koan

  • Satori, enlightenment, is not a sudden complete awakening, it is the sudden and intuitive way of seeing into anything. The satori is not a feeling of relaxation, though, it is letting go but not feeling it.
  • The koan is a way of stressing the mind into having to relax and release itself. Like increasing muscular tension to give yourself a feeling of what not to do. 

Of Zen And Focus

Zen spirituality is to be in the moment and do only what you are doing without giving in to fleeting thoughts.

When a human is so self-controlled, that he cannot let go of himself, he dithers or wobbles between opposites. The effort to remain “good” or “happy” necessitates such strenuous balancing that it will surely induce mania and anxiety.

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Online Dating Saves People Money

People who meet online take half as much time to get married. That implies that online daters that end up marrying spend half as much on dates on the process.

Assuming an average of 18. 5 mon...

Less Likely To Divorce

One controversial study from an online dating platform claims that couples who met online have a 6 percent separation and divorce rate whereas couples who met offline have an 8 percent rate.

More Likely To Break Up

A study of 4000 people claims couples who meet on dating sites are less likely to get married and more likely to break up than couples who met offline. The phenomenon holds true for both married and unmarried couples.

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