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“Nobody Likes Me:” Understanding Loneliness and Self-shame - PsychAlive

“Nobody Likes Me:” Understanding Loneliness and Self-shame - PsychAlive



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What is our “critical inner voice”?

This “critical inner voice” exists in all of us, reminding us constantly that we aren’t good enough and don’t deserve what we want. As long as we are listening to this dangerous critic that twists our reality, we cannot really trust our own perceptions of what others think of us.

Once we lo...

Effects Of This Inner Voice

Chances are, it is this destructive “voice” we are hearing every time we tell ourselves, “nobody likes me.”

  • It’s also this voice that instructs us to avoid situations where we’d get to know people.
  • It shuts us up in social situations, makes us nervous, so we don’t act like ou...

Where does the “voice” that “nobody likes me” come from?

  1. If a parent thought of us as lazy, helpless or as a troublemaker, we tend to incorporate these attitudes toward ourselves on an unconscious level throughout our lives.
  2. Add to this the many other social experiences we had where we felt put down, shamed or rejected (a teacher who ...

Dealing with Isolation and Loneliness

The critical inner voice strongly influences feelings of isolation, loneliness and social anxiety .

This creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. If we start to see the world as threatening or not accepting of u...

There are five important steps to overcoming this inner critic.

Step One: Get to know what your inner critic is telling you

Step Two: Think about where these critical attitudes come from

Step Three: Talk back ...

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