A mentor is not someone who gives you direct answers, but someone who challenges you to know the right answer. 

And in life, you can't be spoon-fed all the time. The role of a mentor is to guide you and give you the wisdom in knowing the answer.

A mentor..

• Takes a long-range view of your growth and development.
• Helps you see the destination but does not give you the detailed map to get there.
• Offers encouragement and cheerleading, but not "how to" advice.

A mentor does not..

• Serve as a coach as explained above.
• Function as an advocate of yours in the organizational environment such as your boss would; the relationship is more informal.
• Tell you how to do things.
• Support you on transactional, short-term problems.
• Serve as a counselor or therapist. 

• Have the willingness to learn and be open to positive or negative feedback.
• Do not hesitate to ask for advice and use this chance to practice being a good listener.
• Let your mentor know what your goals are.
• Discuss with your mentor how you can best measure the success and effectiveness of your working relationship together.
• Always follow your appointments.
• Keep track of your discussions with your mentor and follow up specifically on those steps when you meet.

1. Use your time looking for the mentor you are comfortable with.
2. Share your goals and fears openly.
3. Do not expect your mentor to spoon-feed you.
4. Do not expect specific advice.
5. Share your struggles and failures.
6. Listen, research and apply your mentor's guidance.
7. Show that you value your mentor's support.
8. Do not abuse your relationship by expecting political support in the organization.