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20 Habits Happy Couples Have (But Never Talk About)
Written by Angel Chernoff // Nothing in this world is more difficult than love. And nothing is more worth it. A happy couple is not a 'perfect couple' that comes together, but an imperfect couple that learns to enjoy each other's differences, and works together every day to create something special.

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Practice self-care as individuals

Your disappointments in your partner often reflect your disappointments in yourself. Your acceptance of your partner often reflects your acceptance of yourself. 
Thus, the first step to hav...

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Stand together

Don’t let outsiders run your relationship for you. If you’re having an issue with your partner, work it out with THEM and no one else.  

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The relationship is unique

Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s – not your parent’s, friend’s, coworker’s, or that random couple whose relationship seems perfect.  Keep in mind that all relationships have th...

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Accept each other

The foundation of love is to let those we care about be unapologetically themselves and not distort them to fit our own egotistical ideas of who they should be. Otherwise, we fall in love only with...

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Make time for each other

If you neglect your relationship, your relationship will neglect you too. 

In relationships, distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each oth...

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Communicate

Your partner is not a mind reader. Share your thoughts. Give them the information they need rather than expecting them to know the unknowable.  

The more that remains unspoken,...

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Listen intently before replying

Don’t listen so you can reply, listen to understand. Open your ears and mind to your partner’s concerns and opinions without judgment. Look at things from your partner’s perspective as well...

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Practice the golden rule

In a healthy relationship, you get what you put in. You get nothing less and nothing more. There is no room for selfishness. If you want love, give love. If you want to see a smile, give a smile.&n...

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They cheer for each other

Having an appreciation for how amazing your partner is leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places.  

Be happy for them when they’re making progress.  Che...

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Discuss your goals and dreams

Having regular discussions with each other about goals, dreams, passions and the future, in a way that’s positive and inspiring, will not only bring you closer, but it will also bring your collecti...

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Negotiate and compromise

Since people’s needs change over time, and life itself demands change too, the inner workings of good relationships are negotiated and re-negotiated all the time. And oftentimes a two-way c...

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Don't blame

Blaming accomplishes nothing.  Take responsibility for your actions.  Take responsibility for your relationship – the good times and the bad.  

Either you both take equ...

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Taming your anger

When you feel anger surging up and you want to yell that vulgar remark on the tip of your tongue, just close your mouth and walk away. Don’t let your anger get the best of you. Give yourse...

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Apologize immediately

Making up after an argument is central to every happy relationship.  A simple, honest “I’m sorry” is usually the most important step.  

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Respect each other’s humanness

Even the happiest couples on earth are still just two humans.  And all humans are imperfect.  

Stand beside the one you love through their trying times of imperfection. ...

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Go to bed at the same time

Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. 

They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

Cultivate common interests

Don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. 

At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevents you from appearing too dependent.

Trust and forgiveness

If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

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Self-understanding

To make a marriage work, you have to be the right person.

Rather than looking for the right partner, become aware of your blind spots, growing edges and vulnerabilities. Take r...

You can’t avoid marital conflict

Blaming, oversimplifying, and seeing oneself as a victim are all common traits of unhappy couples and failed marriages.

Conflicts should be approached by looking together at the problem.

A good marriage takes skill

Most of us don’t have adequate communication skills going into marriage. It is important to build this skill.

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Rekindling the Fire

Many couples have reached a cozy state of companionship. The humdrumness of life affects the long-term relationship.

It is not uncommon to lose the 'fire' and is unrealistic to expect consis...

Love Progression

As the initial stage of love fades away, a deeper, richer sense of each other should take its place, and couples can find more ways to make things interesting and fun.

Look With New Eyes

Staying curious about each other and finding things, memories, places, and activities that are yet to be shared or experienced together is a great way to rekindle the relationship.
Revisiting your past and finding ways to connect better by looking at the other with 'new' eyes makes us see many things that were overlooked earlier.

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