In this case, you’re showing your work because it instills trust, and trust is critical for acceptance.

When you show you work, the person you’re advising doesn’t have to take your recommendations on blind faith. They can see exactly how you got to your advice and buy into it along the way.

Accountability is key. The more you can involve the entire social circle, the better the odds they’ll actually follow through.

You can spend 10 minutes giving someone life-changing advice, but your advice would be much more effective if you knew a friend, a family member, and a co-worker were giving them the same feedback all day long.

• Don’t advise until you’ve been invited to. No one is going to listen to you until they’re ready to.
• Offer long-term support. It’s hard to implement big changes in your life, especially if you’re doing it alone.
• Express confidence in their judgment. Work to make your advice their idea by asking lots of questions to lead them to the answer and let them know you’re truly confident in their decision.