The physical evidence of a life well-lived can be a source of pride rather than shame. We don't have to hide the white hair, lined skin, scars, or extra pounds. They can be seen as signs that you persist.

When we expect perfection from everyone, including ourselves, we not only discount much of what is beautiful but create an unrealistic, restrictive, and cruel world where people's flaws are highlighted. Instead, we should highlight the beauty of what we do have, flaws and all, rather than always grasping for more.

According to Zen master Basho, the ordinary mind has no fabrications, no biased value judgments.

That is to say, the experiences you have and the person you already are, suffice. You may occasionally need repairs, but that adds to your character and makes you who you are.