It can make navigating even the most basic parts of our day exceedingly stressful and frustratingly inefficient.
It is an external strategy for keeping track of what we need to do and accomplish.
By creating and maintaining a reliable organizational system, we give ourselves the best possible chance of efficiently processing the day-to-day Have-Tos, so that we have sufficient time and energy to focus on the Want-Tos (the things that really matter to us).
It means being direct and straightforward in what we say and do, setting effective and healthy boundaries and asking for what we want or need.
When we aren’t able or willing to be assertive we end up living other people’s lives rather than our own.
It is the ability to perform valuable, cognitively-demanding activities in a distraction-free state.
It allows us to operate at or near the upper bounds of our cognitive potential—which is essential to doing our best work.
Simply write about and articulate whatever is going on in your life emotionally, big or small. The key is to write continuously without any censoring or editing.
You'll be more aware of your emotions, and able to acknowledge and validate them rather than impulsively reacting so as to avoid them.
It is a practice for training our minds out of the tendency toward automatic worry and rumination. The basic idea is to schedule a short amount of time every day to worry on purpose.
By creating a consistent time and space for our brains to worry, we discourage them from worrying intrusively during inopportune times throughout the day.
It is based on the idea that only once you give yourself permission to stop trying to do it all, to stop saying yes to everyone, can you make your highest contribution towards the things that really matter.
Prevention is the best medicine. It is really difficult to pull out of negative spirals once we've fallen into them.
Not that pulling out of these problems is impossible. It isn't. But it can be a struggle. Life can be much better if we can creatively avoid these negative cycles in the first place.
Worrying is the mental habit of trying to solve a problem that either can’t be solved or isn’t really a problem.
It gives us the illusion of control. Worrying about it won’t change things. But it will lead to a lot of anxiety.