Randy Armstrong's Key Ideas from The Let Them Theory
by Mel Robbins

Not everyone will agree with you, and that’s okay. If someone criticizes your choices, let them. You don’t have to convince anyone to see your worth or align with your values.

Some people leave when you grow, set boundaries, or stop serving their needs. Instead of chasing them, let them go. The right people will stay, and the wrong ones will make space for better connections.

If someone doesn’t want to commit, support, or engage with you, let them. Stop taking it personally. Their response says more about their situation than your worth.

You can’t save, change, or force someone to do what’s best for them. If they refuse to help themselves, let them. Focus on your own growth instead.

By letting people be who they are, you release the stress of trying to change them. Instead of chasing, forcing, or overthinking—find peace in detachment.

If someone’s actions disappoint you, don’t waste energy trying to change them. Just let them. And in return, let yourself move on, heal, and focus on those who truly matter.