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4 Relationship Myths That Almost Everyone Perpetuates
Last week I was invited to a wedding shower where the guests were asked to bring a note card with one piece of advice for the new couple. Most of the cards had typical comments like "Always compromise," "Be honest and truthful," or "Never go to bed mad."

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Having Separate Lives

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