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https://hbr.org/2018/09/4-ways-busy-people-sabotage-themselves

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4 Ways Busy People Sabotage Themselves
Executive Summary When we're chronically busy and stressed, we can fall into self-sabotaging behaviors. Four common traps are, first, to keep ploughing away when she should take a step back and prioritize. Second, we overlook simple solutions because stress has created tunnel vision.

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Lack of prioritization

When we’re busy and stressed, we often default to working on whatever has the most imminent deadline, even if it’s not particularly important. Stress causes our focus to narrow to the point where w...

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Overlooking easy solutions

When we’re stressed, our narrow focus blocks us from seeing easy solutions that are usually right in front of our eyes. 

To get out of the trap of overlooking easy solutions, take a step...

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Lack of effective systems

When we're burned out, we tend to keep doing something ourselves that we could delegate or outsource, because we don’t have the necessary energy we need to establish a system for recurring problems...

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Coping mechanisms

People who are overloaded will have a strong impulse to avoid or escape anxiety:

  • Avoidance could mean putting off a discussion with your boss.
  • Escape could mean rushing...

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To break free from the temptation to compare, audit your social media feeds.

If you find yourself thinking about how your life matches up to a friend’s when you’re not on social media, try to shift your perspective. Think about their human traits, vulnerabilities, and things that you have in common. When you change your mindset, you can move from a place of jealousy to a place of empathy. 

2 types of comparisons

  • Downward comparison (comparing ourselves to those less fortunate): It activates the brain’s “lack” network, emphasizing our insecurity and focuses on safeguarding the status quo at the expense of risk and adventure.
  • Upward comparison (comparing ourselves to those we envy): it can excite feelings of envy and low self-esteem.

Both of these types of comparison can be bad for the brain

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Bullying is intended to dominate a victim into submission.

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Workplace bullying 

Bullying in the business world is more masked:

  • Taking credit for others' work. 
  • Shaming others in public.
  • Inventing faults to accuse team members when superiors are around.
  • Concerned with building a reputation as a hard-driving manager that is focused on continuous improvement.

The staff members usually resort to passivity to survive. It is true that people leave bosses, not jobs.

Bullying to seem smart

A colleague may use their position of authority to demean and dominate others. They may seem poised and confident and can be responsible for substantial billings. But little cracks start showing when coworkers become hesitant to work with the person or even threaten to leave.

Coworkers note that she is superior and disdainful, and ignores comments. No-one may critique her solution. She rolls her eyes when they speak up.

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