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How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves

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How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves
If someone was rude to him it was because they were jealous or felt threatened by his power or success. If someone was kind to him it was because they admired his power and success, and in some cases, may be trying to manipulate him to get more access to it.

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Why We Judge Others

There are many ways we choose to measure the value of our own lives, be it money or popularity of family or good deeds.

The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.

If you measure your life by how much you’ve traveled, then you will measure other people by the same standard. 

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Judging Mindfully

Traits we will not tolerate within ourselves, we will not tolerate in others. It is a choice we make. We should make those choices consciously and not without thinking.

It’s why corrupt officials choose to be corrupt: because they assume everyone else is as corrupt as they are. It’s why cheaters choose to cheat. It’s why those who can’t trust are the ones who can’t be trusted.

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Recognize our own fixation

Recognize how you measure yourself and consciously choose your metric. Also, realize that everyone has their own criteria that will not be the same as yours. 

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