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Getting to know a person in a romantic relationship is a gradual process. Over time, you lear...

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How 'The Five Love Languages' Can Improve Your Relationships

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That's sort of the idea behind the concept of love languages : they let you in on what makes your...

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This term was coined by longtime relationship counselor Gary Chapman. His book,

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In his own words, here's how Chapman breaks down the five love languages in his book:

"My conclusion after thirty years of m...

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In his own words, here's how Chapman breaks down the five love languages in his book:

The five languages are pretty straight...

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Chances are, you can relate to a few of these. Maybe you relate to all of them. But most of us have one or two that are much more important to us than the others, and it's different for everyone. A...

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When you know what your partner does and doesn't care about, it's a pretty big eye opener. For example, for years, I've been giving my significant other small gifts to show that I care. I put a lot...

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When I realized "gifting" wasn't his love language at all, everything suddenly made a lot of sense, and I learned to show that I care in ways that speak to him. And conversely, when I do give gifts...

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You can probably figure out what your language is by simply giving it a little thought, but Chapman offers a 30-question quiz on his website . ...

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As Chapman points out, there are different "dialects" for each language, too. For example, my primary language is quality time, but I also express and feel affection through words of affirmation an...

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In short, knowing what makes you tick and what doesn't can help you empathize with people a little ...

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Of course, the concept is also helpful in simply expressing your love in the best possible way. For my fiancé's birthdays, I'd always put a huge amount of thought into his physical gift. Now that I...

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I've found that the concept of love languages helps pretty much any relationship, not just romantic ones. It's useful to understand what matters to people.

For example, I used to get an...

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It took time to realize that his love language is 100 percent words of affirmation and zero percent quality time or acts of service. It seems strange to me, but that's him, and that's how he expres...

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"I hate talking on the phone," he said. "So I don't do it. I don't know why that hurts people's feelings."

I joked, "Because when you don't keep in touch, we think you don't love us any...

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It can help in business, too. Business strategist Marie Forleo says the love languages concept is her "secret weapon" in maintaining a h...

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Overall, it all comes down to knowing what's important to people so you can understand, empathize and work with them a little better. Everyone is different. We all have different life experiences; ...

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Love languages can't fix everything, of course. They're not going to solve your joint money problems, for example. They're not going to make your in-laws more tolerable or get your partner to help ...

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