A gem statement is a statement that allows the opportunity to open up a new conversation with the hopes of compromisation and a solution.

This usually involves expressing your emotions with the main issue beneath all the surface anger or any other emotion being experienced while having a positive impact on the other.

• Before you talk to your partner or anyone you have to address an issue with, ask yourself whether you're ready to have the conversation.
• Think about the things you need to say without being consumed by negative emotions. Are you willing to say what you need to say? You can always try to phone a friend to get rid of the pre-conversation jitters.
• Remember that uttering your gem statement is always going to be a temporary discomfort: the benefits you'll experience will be lasting and profound.

• Let the other party know that you believe that you will be able to sort out the issue on hand if you both try to understand each other.
• Give each other the time to express one's experiences and emotions and the space to air out any grievances.
• Whether you agree with each other doesn't really matter, what matters more is that you're able to actively listen and discern one another.

• As the conversation comes to a close take the time to reflect back on what you've discussed, the next steps to be taken, and if there's anything left each party wants to say to the other.
• Remember to ask the most important thing before closing the conversation and that is "What has changed for you as a result of this conversation?"
• Lastly, express gratitude towards the other person regardless of what may.