A good therapist can utilize multiple approaches and will tailor the provided therapy based on the couple's needs. The common therapies are:

• Gottman Method: Focused on positive communication
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): helps couples with their emotional needs.
• Imago Relationship Therapy: Connecting new relationships with old ones.
• Other approaches like Hypnosis, sex therapy, etc.

One can call the Therapist and ask about their background, fees, and if they take insurance, also ensuring that they are licensed. Do not expect any free counseling session, and keep in mind that couples therapy can be a bit expensive.

If one partner isn't enthusiastic to go, it is a good idea to appreciate their willingness, helping them understand that it is going to be useful for them.

A good yardstick to measure if the therapy is working is to see how communicative, comfortable, and free one is while being with the counselor.

The best therapist cannot save certain drowning relationships, so it helps to understand what kind of progress is expected, with a commitment to improving the relationship unfolding from both the partners.