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We get stuck in our emotions due to our spiralling mind, our fixation with old ideas and behaviours, our need to be always right, perfectionism and thinking in absolute terms.
When faced with strong reactive emotion, we are usually unable to understand that our emotions are dynamic and start acting like wind-up toys doing the same motions, not being aware of other possibilities and options.
These are the three usual suspects, stuff we do to cope-up with our emotions:
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When the commitment is 100 percent, your future behaviour is already set in stone, with no back-and-forth struggle and revisiting of the decision-making condition.
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What you should really be doing instead is spending 80% of your time finding common ground with people you want to get to know, and 20% of your time falling back on those unique things that set you apart.
In order to establish new connections, you should try to highlight what you have in common with others. However, while doing this, make sure you also integrate elements that set you apart: unique experiences that make you who you are today.
After all, your new friends will like you for everything you represent, not only what they perceive as being familiar.