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5 Reasons We Play the Blame Game
When something goes wrong in your life, is your first reaction to blame someone else? If so, you're engaging in the very common behavior of the blame game. Unfortunately, there are no winners in this game, so knowing the 5 reasons for why you do this will benefit your relationships.

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Types Of People Who Blame

  • People who can always find something else to blame.
  • People who blame themselves for everything, even when they’ve had nothing to do with an unfortunate outcome.
  • People who blam...

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Why People Blame Themselves

This isn’t just false modesty or fishing for reassurance; some people do believe that they cause every bad thing all or most of the time.

Blaming yourself when something goes wrong might, rel...

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Blame And Consequence

Theoretically, anyone who intentionally practices an immoral act is culpable regardless of the consequences. But in most cases, people sign up for what is called “moral luck”.

Moral luck is t...

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Reasons We Play The Blame Game

  • Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
  • Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict re...

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Rising Above Blame

The more often you play the blame game, the more you lose. Learning to tell when you need to own up to your role in a bad situation will help you grow from your experiences, and ultimately help you...

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If the manipulator attempts to get someone to adopt what the manipulator himself regards as wrong, it resembles lying. The liar tries to get you to choose a false belief or to make a mistake in what he thinks, feels, doubts or pays attention to.

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