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5 Ways to Feel Confident in Under 5 Minutes
Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

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What confidence is

Confidence is often seen as an elusive trait that others have but you don’t.

The truth is confidence is what appears after you go for what you want; it is the result of stepping...

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Tall posture

How you hold yourself physically plays a big part in how you hold yourself mentally.

In order to begin to feel and look confident, stand tall, shoulders & head back, being aware of w...

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Change your environment

Changing your environment changes the stimuli that are going into your brain—this affects your moment-by-moment perception of the world.

Think of places you frequent where you feel your most ...

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Do something you are good at

Whenever we are doing something new, we tend to feel bad when we fail. We ultimately wonder if we should quit. However, any skill that’s worthwhile will always be preceded by failure as you go...

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Reframe

Your thoughts will influence your behavior. Reframing can change the direction of your thoughts. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, ask these 3 questions:

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Breath and future thought

Feelings that bring about low confidence like fear & anxiety can result in 2 effects: shallow breathing and thoughts of a disastrous future. 

Counteract this by ha...

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Be Authentic

People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

When someone professes to be one way but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that th...

Listen

Listening meets a person’s primary need for validation and acceptance.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid, because by doing this you'll learn more about a person’s character, desires, and needs.

Become an Expert

Become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others.

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority.

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Start With A Casual Conversation

You’re trying to make the relationship better, so don’t jump to conclusions, be petty or accusatory. State what you’re experiencing in a non-threatening way and follow it wit...

Ask For A Private Discussion

Instead of avoiding the person, seek to address the issue head-on because, if left unaddressed, it’s only likely to get worse. 

Ask for a private discussion with the other person to express what you’re experiencing as pleasantly and agreeably as possible to avoid damaging the relationship further.

Always Be Direct

All people deserve to be treated professionally and with dignity. Remembering that being direct is not in contradiction with professionalism is imperative. Be direct, brave and respectful.

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Soft language vs. hard language

  • Soft language: it uses “I” statements and focuses on the actions that took place, how they made us feel, and what we want to happen.
  • Hard language: it starts wi...

Create space

It's useful to agree in advance to call a “timeout” or “press pause” before arguments begin.

It will give you the time to work through what happened. Because arguing when you are in a low emotional state is not going to help you.

What if…?

Ask yourself these questions: “What if the other person had a point? What if I wasn’t being honest with myself? What if I wasn’t taking responsibility for something?”

This will provide a new lens through which you'll see the situation. You might realize that there are things you could take responsibility for, that you were probably ignoring based on your initial triggered response.

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