Rather than attending to the conversation at hand, socially anxious people are focused on themselves and continually monitor how they're coming across. They assume the worst about themselves.

When chatting to someone online, try to focus on the other person. Actively listen rather than thinking about how you look or sound. Actively enjoy what is out there. When on a video call, minimise your own image to help you focus more on the conversation.

Don't fall into the trap of comparing yourself with others on social media. You may think they have endless fun or seem very popular, but, in reality, social media gives a small glimpse into somebody else's life.

When you find yourself playing comparison games, stop and ask yourself if it is helping you. Do you see the whole picture or just a small fraction of their life? Then try to focus your attention away from social media.

If you find yourself holding back from taking part in social media, ask what you would tell friends who have the same concern. You'd probably encourage them to give it a go. The same is true for you.

Join in a bit more during group chats. Try share something on social media, even if you just share somebody else's post. Try not to monitor how many 'likes' you've received. Move forward and focus on something else.

There is an attention-training exercise that can reduce the feeling of anxiety.

Spend a few minutes each day practising the following:

• Listen to all the sound around you - the people chattering, birds singing, the sound of traffic.
• Look around you and try to notice colours and shadows. You may notice different shades of green or interesting shapes of shadows.
• Play a music track and practice listening to one instrument at a time.

These small practices can help you move your attention to something different, rather than being focused on yourself.