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How to Spot and Respond to a Guilt Trip

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What Guilt-tripping Is

Guilt-tripping is an indirect approach to communication. Even when you’ve done nothing wrong, the other person might imply the situation is somehow your fault. They make their unhappiness clear and leave it to you to find a way of fixing the problem.

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What Guilt-tripping Looks Like

Someone trying to guilt-trip you may:

  • point out their own efforts to make you feel as if you’ve fallen short;
  • ignore your efforts to talk about the problem;
  • give you the silent treatment;
  • deny their irritation, though their actions tell you otherwise;
  • ...

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Listen Empathically

Someone feeling hurt might use guilt trips when they don’t know any other way to deal with their emotional turmoil. It’s tough to listen if someone won’t admit there’s a problem, but get the discussion started by pointing out their behavior. Then give them space to expres...

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Ask Questions

Someone might resort to guilt when they don’t know how to advocate for themselves in more direct ways.

If you notice signs suggestive of guilt-tripping, use open-ended questions to encourage them to express themselves directly:

  • “You seem upset. What’s going on?”
  • “It s...

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When to Get Help

  • someone tries to guilt you into doing things after you say no;
  • the behavior forms a pattern;
  • they make no effort to change;
  • they try to control your behavior in other ways;
  • you feel as if you can’t do anything right
  • you notice put-downs, gaslig...

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We all are, or have been, guilty of guilt-tripping; it is, after all, a mostly unconscious act. These holidays, let’s educate ourselves about it, and let’s all serve the people in our lives a little less guilt and a little more love🎄

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