Hard anniversaries, like the birthday of someone we've lost, are helped by routines and rituals. They create a grounding structure with a reassuring and stabilising effect.
Routines are repetitive actions to help us develop skills while creating continuity and order.
Rituals are routines elevated by creativity, driven by intention, and injected with meaning. Rituals help us through transitions.If setting the table is a routine, a ritual is taking the special china and making grandma's favourite recipe to remember her and process the time passed since her death.