Pretending we don't have any issues can be a form of denial. We want everyone to think we're doing great because we're afraid of the embarrassment and judgment that might come if people knew we're struggling. We also ignore our problems because they're overwhelming, and we don't know how to solve them.

But, while avoiding issues is easier, we know it isn't an effective long-term solution.

If you are used to denying your feelings and problems, it can be difficult to look at them. However, if we want to have better relationships, we have to acknowledge that we're not okay and are possibly hurt, afraid, or angry.

To move out of denial, start with acknowledging your feelings. This can be done through journaling. Try not to judge your emotions as it provides valuable insight. Instead, consider why you're feeling a particular way.