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A relationship based on compatibility can make you feel safe and content. Relying on that feeling can become a problem if you become too dependant on your partner.
When you're in love, you should be comfortable to reveal your good and not-so-great emotions.
If you can only describe your relationship as nice, but it lacks the spark of attraction, it may be difficult to be happy in the long-term.
Some people fall in love with someone they never thought would be a good fit.
Be open to date outside of your 'type'. Try and find someone that surprises or challenge you.
If you find a list of flaws in your partner that you want to change, you may be focussed on compatibility.
Love is comfortable in accepting your partner without thinking of ways to chan...
When you are in love, you won't constantly think about what your current relationship is lacking.
If you continually feel that your relationship is missing something, you may need to go find ...
You may have similar views and enjoy doing fun activities together, but this may not be enough to hold your relationship together in the long run.
It is also important to be romantically comp...
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If you find it difficult to share your past experiences, ask yourself why you are reluctant to open up. Getting to the root of the reluctance is key.
Before you talk to your partner about something difficult, find the right words to express it first. Until you can verbalize it, it remains unknown to you and to your partner.
If you do not feel safe enough to talk through these issues, consider journaling, or talking with a counsellor until you are clear about how you are feeling.
When you decide to open up, start by taking small steps to test the waters first.
The more you practice and see that you can do it, the easier it will get for you to open up.
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Don't judge someone by the information they put in an online profile. They may look like a perfect fit, but lack the chemistry when you finally meet in person.
Similarly, it can be easy to write someone off because your ideals don't match on paper. Who's to know if you won't have chemistry in real life?
Most people understand love at first sight to be falling in love with a stranger when they see them for the first time. But love at first sight is based on stereotypes, imagination, and ass...
If you have experienced love at first sight, think what made the stranger stand out to you.
Knowing this, you may understand why some are certain about the possibility of love at first sight.
But it doesn't make the potential resulting breakup easier. It leaves us feeling like we lost something destiny had intended.
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Codependency in relationships means being overly preoccupied with your partner to the point of losing your own sense of who you are and what you need.
Partners in an interdependent or s...
The key to making your relationship more interdependent is to take stock of your life. Find purpose and meaning outside of your relationship.
Not only will it make you happier and better as a person, but it may also improve intimacy and passion in your relationship.
It’s healthy to have regular time with your friends without your partner. A little time apart also creates mystique and plays into that tried but true adage that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
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We see it as a cure for all of life’s problems. And when we believe that all we need is love, we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect and commitment towards the people w...
....about what love actually is and what it can do for us. These unrealistic expectations then sabotage the very relationships we hold dear in the first place. - Mark Manson
Falling in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a good partner for you. Love is an emotional process; compatibility is a logical process. And the two don’t bleed into one another very well.
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Correctly “reading” the signs of commitment in a potential long-term partner is crucial. When you don’t get solid information about commitment as things progress, you can miss important s...
For behavior to mean something about commitment, it must be behavior that the person has control over performing. If one's options are limited by the context their intentions cannot be read.
In the context of dating and mating, option constraints on you or your partner, limits the information contained in the choices you make. That means that some may routinely misinterpret the behavior of their partners as a signal of commitment when it isn’t.
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Our own partner preferences may not be fully understood by us.
People may not be communicating well about what they want in their partners or may have a lack of awareness, or even a myopic view of their life. Experiencing it for themselves is a better bet to find out what works.
The dreamy idols that make up our early stages of attractions, especially at a young age, do not translate into someone one can spend the entire life with, where mundane activities like picking up groceries and taking care of the kids take precedence over being handsome or inspiring.
Chemistry is made up of subtle behaviors and dispositions that are felt by both parties equally.
It could be the way someone laughs at your jokes or the way they talk to you or help you. The absence of chemistry is normally displayed in the lack of emotional intensity.
High compatibility between people comes from the similarities in their lifestyles and values.
Educated people usually date other educated people. Religious people usually date other religious people. People that are not compatible normally repel one another.
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To us, being loved in a relationship is perhaps the highest ideal. It gives our lives meaning and purpose. Being loved validates our sense of self-esteem and soothes our fears of loneliness.
There is an amount of healthy idealization that helps us fall in love.
However, if we’re depressed or have low self-esteem, we’re more likely to idealize a prospective partner and overlook signs of trouble, such as unreliability or addiction, or accept disrespectful or abusive behavior. A lack of a support system or loneliness might also blind us to potential faults.
It is far better to first deal with these concerns before entering into a relationship.
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