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Most couples need to fight more, not less — here’s why and how to do it

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According to a 2019 study, here are the top three triggers that upset, irritate, hurt, or anger partners

1. Condescension (i.e., you are treated...

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Short-term gain, long-term pain.

  • Researchers from the University of Michigan and Penn State University followed more than 1,500 adults for more than a week, they found that while people felt better on the day they avoided an argument, the next day they had diminished psychological well-being and increased cortisol, which ca...

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Regardless of the problem, there’s no substitute for listening to your partner.

How do we become better listeners? Give a “CRAPO”. Here’s what I mean:

1. Clarify: Be clear about what they’re saying if not ask questions. 

2. Reflect th...

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4. Paraphrase: To demonstrate your understanding, you should be able to recap what your partner is saying, using your own words. This has two big benefits: First, it shows your partner that you’re deeply invested in the conversation; second, knowing you need to paraphrase forces...

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