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Got a new car? Nobody cares. Youâll get some gawkers for a couple of weeksâthey donât care. Theyâre curious. Three weeks in itâll be just another shiny blob among all the thousands of others crawling down the freeway and sitting in garages and driveways up and down your street.Â
People will care about your car just as much as you care about all of those. Got a new gewgaw? New wardrobe? Went to a swanky restaurant? Exotic vacation? Nobody cares. Donât base your happiness on peopleâs caring, because they wonât. And if they do, they either want your stuff or hate you for it.
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Occasionally, people in your life will defy the odds and actually care about you. Still not your stuff, sorry. But if they value you, theyâll value that you value it, and theyâll listen.Â
When you talk about all of those things that nobody else cares about, they will look into your eyes and consume your words, and in that moment you will know that every part of them is there with you.
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Marry them. Befriend them. Work with them. Spend weekends with them. No matter how much power you become possessed of, youâll never be able to make someone careâso gather close the caring.
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I mean, thereâs a lot of itâtrillions upon trillions of dollars floating around the world, largely made up of cash whose value is made up and ascribed to it, anyway. Donât engineer your life around getting a slightly less tiny portion of this pile, and make your spirit of generosity reflect this principle.Â
I knew a man who became driven by the desire to amass six figures in savings, so he worked and scrimped and sacrificed to get there. And he did⊠right before he died of cancer. Iâm sure his wifeâs new husband appreciated his diligence.
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 Avoid debt on depreciating assets, and never incur debt in order to assuage your vanity (see rule number one). Debt has become normative, but donât blithely accept it as a rite of passage into adulthoodâdebt represents imbalance and, in some sense, often a resignation of control.Â
If you canât avoid it, though, make sure that your degree is an investment rather than a liability.
If youâre just dropping tuition dollars for lack of a better idea at the moment, just withdraw and go wander around Europe for a few weeksâI guarantee youâll spend less and learn more in the process.
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The elements of rhetoric, are what make the world go aroundâbecause they are what prompt the decisions people make. If you develop an understanding of how they work, while everyone else is frightened by flames and booming voices, you will be able to see behind veils of communication.
Youâll find yourself able to craft speech in ways that influence people. When you know how to speak in order to change someoneâs mind, to instill confidence in someone, then you will know this power firsthand.Â
However, bear in mind as you use it that your opponent in any debate is not the person, but ignorance.
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I believe weâre responsible to everyone for something, even if itâs something as basic as an affirmation of their humanity. However, it should most often go far beyond that and manifest itself in service to others, to being a voice for the voiceless.Â
If youâre reading this, there are those around you who toil under burdens larger than yours, who stand in need of touch and respect and chances.Â
Conversely, though, youâre responsible for yourself. Nobody else is going to find success for you, and nobody else is going to instill happiness into you from the outside. Thatâs on you.
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When you understand the world around you as a massive web of interconnected, largely interdependent systems, things get much less mystifyingâand the less we either ascribe to magic or allow to exist behind a fog, the less susceptible weâll be to all manner of being taken advantage of.
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Sometimes chaos consumes the most meticulous of plans, and if you live life with no margins in a financial, emotional, or any other sense, you will be subject to its whims.Â
Take risks, but backstop them with somethingâI strongly suspect these people who say having a Plan B is a sign of weak commitment arenât living hand to mouth. Do what you need to in order to keep your footing.
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You need others in a sense that you need to be part of a communityâthereâs a reason we reflexively pity hermits. Regardless of your theory of anthropogenesis, itâs hard to deny that we are built for community, and that âweâ is always more than âme.âÂ
However, you donât need another person to make your life have meaningâthis idea that Disney has shoved through our eyeballs, that thereâs someone out there for all of us if weâll just believe hard enough and never stop searching.
Establish your own lifeâthen, if thereâs a particular person that you canât help but integrate, believe me, youâll know.
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