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8 Ways to Recover from a Breakup
Romantic breakups are among the most common, yet somehow underrated, traumatic events in our lives. Perhaps because breakups are so universal, most people discuss them openly with each other and are sympathetic. On the other hand, precisely because of the frequency of breakups, people can minimize how deeply hurtful and damaging a breakup really can be for an individual.

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Take some time off and let it out

It’s probably best not to suppress or hold back one’s emotions, especially immediately after a breakup. 

However, the emotions can be so intense that they may not be appropriate for publ...

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Listen to sad music

In the short term, it might reinforce or flare up painful memories, but it also normalizes the grief you are feeling so that you know you're not alone.

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Talk to supportive people

Family and friends can help, but make sure you recognize their limits as well. 

You may decide that professional help may provide a more neutral and long-lasting perspective. They can al...

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Read books about breakups

Something about quiet words on the page describing what you are going through can be calming in a way little else is. It also helps to reboot the logic centers of your brain that your emotional sta...

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Sleep, eat and exercise

As tempting as it is to throw your regular cycle out the window, now is the time it is most crucial to stick to it. 

Keep to your usual sleeping and eating schedule (and amounts) as...

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Treat yourself right

Now is a fine time to do self-care rituals that, at other times, you might consider to be unnecessary splurges. 

Shop for clothes, accessories, or makeup. Get a new haircut. Nibble o...

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Meet new people

While rebounding can be risky, it is OK when one feels ready — on average, it takes people three to six months — to test the dating waters. 

This is probably the quickest way to...

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Set firm boundaries

Once a breakup has happened, you should limit contact with that person. It isn’t unlike going through substance detoxification: There is a difficult withdrawal period, but that is the only way to m...

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Become Anti-Social (Media)

Nothing good can come from looking at your ex’s Instagram stories or Facebook timeline. When it comes to social media, just say no.

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