The causes of lifelong ANGER.
  • The lack of attention, affirmation, and reassurance to make a child feel worthy or even wanted.
  • Parents expected too much from a child or were excessively controlling.
  • Parents were continually critical of a child.
  • Failure of a parent to protect/defend a child from bullying or abuse.
  • Physical, mental, or sexual abuse.
  • Lack of support from parents for the pursuit of a romantic relationship or for a lifestyle or career choice.

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4 Ways to Release Anger Towards Your Parents

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1. Acknowledge your anger.

“I need to move on; it’s been too long.”

Acknowledge the tragic nature of events and understand that there is a place for legitimate anger.

try to share your story ( Choose the right people to talk to. )

The more you are able to share your story—including your anger and resentment—with trusted family members and friends, or therapists and spiritual teachers, the more you will be able to let go, release, and move on.

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2. Talk about the hurt.

Talking to your parents about aspects of your childhood that have caused lingering emotional hurt can prove to be one of the most powerful and healing conversations to have. 

You may have to grieve the childhood you never have, and stop comparing what you had with other people’s childhoods.

THIS STRATEGY IS NOT ALWAYS POSSIBLE. Some parents are more defensive and might never acknowledge what they have done.

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3. Set boundaries with your parents.

You could not escape the family home or build a wall to defend yourself. But you have the ability to say NO, walk away, and minimize contact. You need to believe in your ability to stand on your own two feet.

While this seems harsh at first, it is for the greater good. It also does not have to be forever; sometimes, just by limiting contact for a period of time, you give yourself the time and space to regain clarity and confidence.

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4. Love yourself and believe in your worthiness.

You need first to love yourself, embracing both the good and the bad. You must forgive yourself for your inability to forgive. You are a survivor for being here today. You deserve to live without emotional baggage.

Handling the anger you feel towards your parents, you can finally start to repair your relationship with them and hopefully build the foundation for mutual respect and understanding.

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