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We all know people who just can’t apologize — well, here’s why

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Why we fail to apologize

Even the most conscientious among us occasionally fails to apologize. When this happens, it’s usually for one of two reasons: 

  • We don’t care enough about the other person or the relationship to take on the emotional discomfort of owning our mistake and apologizing for ...

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For the people who can never admit they’ve misstepped, no matter the circumstance, admitting wrongdoing and offering an apology is too psychologically threatening.

Offering an apology implies that they’ve harmed another person in some way, which can elicit feelings...

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Unfortunately, many of us mistakenly interpret the fragility-driven defensiveness of the people that cannot issue apologies as a sign of psychological strength.

That’s because outwardly they appear to be tough individuals who refuse to back down

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Psychologically speaking, admitting that we’re wrong is emotionally uncomfortable and painful to our sense of self. In order to take responsibility and apologize, our self-esteem needs to be strong enough for us to absorb that discomfort. If our self-esteem is higher and stable, ...

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Guy Winch

"If the non-apologizer is a close connection, tap into your empathy and compassion. Remind yourself that beneath their stubborn exterior, they are incredibly vulnerable."

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