A good way to self-analyze ourselves is through writing, this is a simple way to stop thinking so much about what happens to us in our lives, and have all that in a “second brain”. Undoubtedly, if writing helps us in good times, it helps us most in bad times.

That is why, you should avoid friction as much as possible, and take a sheet and a pen, and write everything you feel.

The idea is not to hurry, it is to understand well how you feel, to feel it from an observer's perspective and not that of an “actor”.

After thinking about how we feel, it is necessary to review what happened, what circumstances occurred so that the result was what it was and not another. 

For this, it is necessary to dig into the possible causes, and from there, take responsibility for everything that was under our control and that could have changed the final result. 

Do not see it as a way to mortify yourself for what happened, see it as a way to learn from your own experiences, to avoid repeating them.