Attention requires suspension of our ego, our thoughts and requires us to open ourselves towards the other, all of which are preconditions of morality, empathy and ethical action.

Paying attention mindfully, receptively and with active listening is something antithetical to the current age of digital information overload.

• Social media helps us create a fake image of ourselves that we work hard to refine and curate, attempting to make ourselves into a brand.
• This narcissistic tendency in many of us does not incorporate any ethical or moral values.
• Social media encourages comparison, which impacts our psychological health as it sucks our happiness.
• When we see people having a ‘great’ life on their Instagram posts, we continue to scroll, hoping to find something else to counteract the envy.
• We end up posting something great about our lives in a semi-fake status update.

The notifications which count the number of unread emails/messages/requests/reactions behave like a slot machine. This is because we cannot see the whole story, and have succumbed to a Curiosity Gap.

The bell icon on Twitter often has a few unread notifications highlighted in red. It gets our attention because we are tempted to close that gap in our knowledge.

Now that unread notifications, missed calls, unattended emails and texts have cropped up at 25 different places at any given time, our attention is fragmented and highly degraded.

Digital enhancements like one-click shopping, infinite scrolls, under two-hour deliveries, video recommendation algorithms, are all designed by well-paid experts to make us scroll, click, engage and shop more on their platforms. Our attention is their currency, so they invest a lot in removing friction in areas that are beneficial for them, not us.

Making a digital product or service more addictive is a full-time job of Big Tech, something which is helping downgrade us by scattering our attention and eroding our empathy.

• Merely having a smartphone in front of us, even if it is not being used, is enough to make any interaction we have with a friend sitting next to us distracted and hollow.
• It is hard to invest in each other if at any time a phone call or message can stop our conversation.
• Digital technology divides our attention and channels it towards whatever is convenient and profitable for the companies.
• Humans are mere guinea pigs.

Big Tech has realized a critical flaw in most of us: 

We prefer stuff that confirms our existing belief(the affirmation feed) and dislike stuff that provides us with new, challenging, complex and counterintuitive views of reality(the confronting feed).

By narrowing down our attention to what big tech wants us to see, we also end up narrowing our morality, unable to see real, genuine perspectives.

Many apps aimed to increase morality, kindness, family time and good values fail to take off, as they lack the gamification and addiction design elements we have gotten used to.

Big Tech is winning, but there is hope. The recent antitrust charges against Facebook and Google aim to regulate attention-stealing practices to some extent.