It is how you see the world, which leads to suffering. Learn to see the world as it is. See both the sides of the coin.

2 people, lost job, one observed the situation, the other just resents. The first got another job, the other just depressed.

The latter chose to suffer.

Cigarette isn't a healthy desire. You will get irritated without it. A cup of tea maybe a healthy desire. You won't get irritated without it. The thing is to develop healthy desires. Which can be toggled when needed. If you have an unhealthy desire like sleeping in the afternoon, and you have it bad, you can't live without it, then just drop it for a month. Go for a walk or read a book.

You can only have strong ties with yourself when you have one within. Self-love. Have yoga (union) with yourself.

Now get comfortable and close your eyes. Picture a tortoise withdrawing into its shell. Like that tortoise, you’re withdrawing your attention from everything around you and channeling your focus inward. 

Imagine a light, warm and radiant, emanating from the center of your forehead. Take your time and visualize this comforting light in great detail. You should feel yourself growing more restful, relaxed, and self-accepting. Now you can turn your mind to your chosen thought. Dwell on it and gently return to it when you find your mind straying. 

"I am fearless""I use the body, I am not it

Do opposite. Opposite you emotions. Opposite your actions. Everything.

Every time you change your thought or action into its opposite, you’re removing control from your lower self and redelegating it to your higher self – that is, to your sovereign self.