1. Believe there is a lesson to be learned and consent to learn

This is probably one of the most important steps. Unless you’re really willing to learn the lesson, even if it feels uncomfortable at times, you can never move forward. Consent to view the situation as something that can help you grow.

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2. Admit that you might have helped create the problem

Warning: This does require you to immediately quit playing the blame game! Just consider the possibility that you somehow contributed to your current situation. This doesn’t mean no one else played a part; it just means perhaps you did, as well.

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3. Take some alone time and review the situation

I’m sure you’ve done this multiple times. It’s time to do it differently. Try to view the situation from a different perspective. Get objective and see it from someone else’s eyes. Is there another way to interpret what happened and how it all played out?

This requires you to be really honest with yourself about your choices and actions. If you’re willing to change your perspective you may immediately see what lesson needs to be learned and exactly how to learn the lesson.

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4. Let go of your attachment to the problem

Trying to control the problem—your boss, your spouse, or your circumstances—will only keep you more attached to it. The more you “leech” onto a problem, the more it “leeches” back on you.

You will never be able to see the lesson if you dwell on all the little details about what seems wrong.  Letting go could come in many forms: seeing the good in the person, accepting a situation for what it is, or seeing other side of the story.

Any time we let go of our attachment to what went wrong or what happened, we create the possibility of growth—and we pave the path for more positive results

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