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A Beginner's Guide to Couples Therapy
A few years ago, I met a woman at a wedding who told me that she pictured marriage like two astronauts floating around in space, tethered together. "You're both so busy and preoccupied that it's easy to drift apart without noticing," she said.

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Go Sooner Than Later

Most couples don't consider counseling until a real crisis or a catastrophe appears.

It is better to go to couples counseling during a specific life event, strengthening some piece of a rela...

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Finding The Right Therapist

Finding a suitable therapist, right for both the partners can take time. Take into consideration:

  • Both partners are comfortable with the choice.
  • Any preferences (gen...

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Types of Therapies

A good therapist can utilize multiple approaches and will tailor the provided therapy based on the couple's needs. The common therapies are:

  • Gottman Method: Focused on positive comm...

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Seeing A Therapist

One can call the Therapist and ask about their background, fees, and if they take insurance, also ensuring that they are licensed. Do not expect any free counseling session, and keep in mind that c...

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Results of A Therapy

A good yardstick to measure if the therapy is working is to see how communicative, comfortable, and free one is while being with the counselor.

The best therapist cannot sav...

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Seeking Therapy

Seeking Therapy

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Kinds of Therapy

Most therapists are equipped with multiple approaches and can tailor them based on one's specific needs. The two common types of therapy are:

  • Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy(CBT): Identifies and monitors and corrects unhealthy behavioral patterns. It is effective in treating general anxiety.
  • Psychodynamic Therapy: Goes deep into one's past, family, and relationships. It is considered effective in treating certain disorders and depression.

Finding The Right Therapist

  • In looking for the right therapist, it is best to locate one through a referral, if your friends are comfortable providing one.
  • You can also search the internet, looking for licensed practitioners in your area. 
  • Take a look at your insurance plans database and see if you find a good one that can also be covered by insurance.
  • A good therapist may not have a big online footprint. Shortlist about five therapists and get in touch with them personally.

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