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A Counterintuitive Way To Diffuse Difficult Situations

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A Counterintuitive Way To Diffuse Difficult Situations
One the best pieces of advice my mentor gave me many years ago was, "When you are in conflict with someone, don't push back." As a young professional, I was shocked and more than a little frustrated. What did that mean? What if I can't defend myself when someone says something wrong about me?

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Diffusing difficult situations

Diffusing difficult situations
  • Avoiding challenging conversations allows room for assumptions and continuing negative behavior.
  • Meet with the person to understand their concerns.
  • Listen

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Your attitude is crucial

Regardless of whether you are right or wrong, your attitude will determine the outcome of any contentious experience. It’s incredibly important to have a peaceful state of mind before entering ...

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Choose your words wisely

  • Stay away from starting sentences with “you." 
  • Hear the other person out first. Don’t apologize, but acknowledge that there is a problem. 
  • Ask questi...

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Resolving conflict

  • Talk together. Each person should have adequate time to say what he or she believes the other party needs to hear. 
  • Listen carefully to gain understanding. Give your complete attention to the person who is talking without interrupting. 
  • Resolution is possible only when you find points of agreement
  • Guide the conversation without taking sides. 
  • Be quick to forgive. Every conflict needs a clear resolution that acknowledges hurt feelings and finds a solution that begins to mend them.

Leadership and conflict go hand-in-hand

Conflict in the workplace is unavoidable. While you can try and avoid conflict (bad idea), you cannot escape conflict. 

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Unresolved conflict

 ... often results in loss of productivity, the stifling of creativity, and the creation of barriers to cooperation and collaboration.

Leaders who don’t deal with conflict will eventually watch their good talent walk out the door in search of a healthier and safer work environment.

2 Major causes of conflict

  1. Communication: Conflict due to the lack of information, poor information, no information, or misinformation. Clear, concise, accurate, and timely communication of information will help to ease both the number and severity of conflicts.
  2. Emotions: Letting emotions drive decisions. Don't place emotional superiority ahead of achieving your mission.

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