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A fear of regret can lock us into bad relationships, jobs and habits - here's how to break free
How many times have you thought about starting a company, taking a year out to write that novel or leaving a loveless relationship but ended up doing nothing about it? A fear of regret - which is a powerful driver of maintaining the status quo in our lives - may be to blame.

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The fear of regret

Being afraid of regret is a powerful driver of maintaining the status quo in our lives.

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The “disposition effect”

It's a bias related to money and it describes how investors hold on tight to losing assets. The driving force behind this behavior is our fear of regret.

It shows we are very&nbs...

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The “sunk cost bias”

When starting new projects, we tend to have high expectations of them doing well. We put a big amount of effort into them and even if see they don't go that well, we still choose not to opt-out

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Love and the "sunk cost bias"

Too many people hang on to relationships that they well know are going nowhere.

Ending a relationship puts us in the situation to admit we have made a mistake and it makes us experienc...

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The science of regret

Regret is important in our lives because it facilitates the process of learning from our mistakes and avoiding repeating them.

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The brain and regret

Brain imaging helped identify the neural circuits that are involved when we feel regret.

A substantial activity is taking place in the hippocampus, which is responsible for memory. Also, ...

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Loss aversion

It's our tendency o focus on losses rather than gains. 

That makes people who are more prone to feel regret less likely to take risks.

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Tackling fear of regret

  • Start by assessing how regret really is affecting you.
  • Always be aware that while making a change always involves a risk it is equally risky to do nothing.
  • Remember that r...

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Admitting Failure

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Destigmatizing Failure

Recognizing that failure is healthy and a normal consequence of working in a complex environment can help us look at failure as a learning process instead of dreading it. It also helps to let your failure(s) be out in the open, making them visible to yourself and others.

A public failure is a learning for all, as they learn to make errors and take ownership of their mistakes. Openly admitting your mistakes also sends out a strong message of your being courageous, humble and bold.

Admitting Errors 

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It helps to know that failing is an inevitable part of our complicated working life, and aids our lifelong learning.

Sabotaging behaviors

  • You are controlling and rigid in the way that others should treat you and are easily disappointed. 
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Examine your history

This goes back to your childhood. 

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Status quo bias

Status quo bias

Status quo bias is when we prefer that our environment and situation should remain unchanged.

The bias has the most impact in the area of decision-making, as we tend to pre...

Common Explanations for Status Quo Bias

These explanations are all irrational for preferring the status quo:

  • Loss Aversion: When we make decisions, we weigh the potential for loss more heavily than the potential for gain.
  • Sunk Costs: We continue to invest resources like time, money, or effort into a specific endeavor just because we are already invested, not because it is the best choice.
  • Cognitive Dissonance: In decision-making, we an option as more valuable once we have chosen it. Considering an alternative can cause cognitive dissonance.
  • Mere Exposure Effect: It states that people prefer something they've been exposed to before.
  • Rationality vs. Irrationality: We may choose to keep our current situation because of the potential transition cost of switching to an alternative. It becomes irrational when we ignore choices that can improve a situation because we want to maintain the status quo.

Status Quo Bias examples

  • When offered several sandwich options, individuals often choose a sandwich they have eaten before.
  • In 1985, Coca Cola reformulated the original Coke flavor and started selling a "New Coke." Although blind taste tests found many consumers preferred New Coke, consumers continued to buy Coke Classic. New Coke was discontinued in 1992.
  • In political elections, the current candidate is more likely to win than the challenger.