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Esther Perel
Letters from Esther is my monthly newsletter to stay in touch and inspire reflection and action in areas that are important for your relational intelligence. This month's theme is: The Art of Conversation. To receive my letters in your inbox each month, please click "Subscribe to Newsletter" below this post and enter your email address.

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Speaking and listening

Individuals show a tendency to speak more than to listen. Therefore, the art of listening seems to be in some sort of delay when compared to the one of speaking. However, both of them are essential...

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Encourage communication

When wanting to encourage healthy communication, start by making sure that everybody participates in the conversation. This is one of the safest ways to ensure deeper connections and meaningful com...

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Whenever you think about self-love, try picturing yourself making a mistake. Forgiving your own mistakes instead of overreacting to them is what self-love looks like.

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Esther Perel

Esther Perel

"Self-love is less about the ability to withstand loneliness or establish independence and more about awareness and acceptance of our incompleteness. It’s about letting others love us even when we feel unlovable because their version of us is often kinder than our own. "