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Experts say codependent relationships are damaging - here are 8 warning signs you're in one
Codependency might mean slightly different things to different people, but essentially it's when one person is sacrificing more for their relationship than the other. In romantic relationships, it's when one partner requires excessive attention and psychological support, and often this is partnered with them having an illness or an addiction which makes them even more dependent.

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Codependency

Codependency essentially happens when one person is sacrificing more for their relationship than the other.

In a healthy relationship it's normal to depend on your partner for comfort and su...

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Filling in the gaps

The first sign of codependency will involve one person starting to take on the responsibility to keep in touch and connect while the other partner pulls back in how much time, effort, and care...

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'Fixing' your partner

Codependent personalities tend to thrive on helping others (or even thinking they may 'fix' them). When caring for another person stops you from having your own needs met or if your self-worth i...

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You lose all your boundaries

Boundaries are useful with people you care about, but in a codependent person's heart, 'boundaries' is a very negative word. 

They think 'the moment I care about you, I drop all my bo...

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Your own independent life

It's important to bond with your partner but to also maintain your own life. You don't want to become so dependent on someone else that you lose who you are, or that essence that makes you un...

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Losing contact with friends or family

When you start losing contact with those who are important to you, it is a sign something is not quite right. 

You need to be really mindful of that because otherwise, you become increas...

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Asking for approval

An early sign of ...

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Your partner has unhealthy habits

One early sign of...

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Signs of a codependent relationship

  • Are you or your partner always worried that the other will break off the relationship?
  • Do you need constant assurance that you are loved?
  • Do you or your part...

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