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Having a Pen Pal Is Good Medicine
Writing letters — real letters, with pen and paper — makes you stronger, both physically and emotionally.

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The Psychology of Writing Letters

The Psychology of Writing Letters

New studies show that writing letters has healing benefits, both physically and emotionally.

There is something romantic about writing a letter, and it conveys more emotion...

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Writing Letters: A Therapeutic Process

Writing letters becomes a therapeutic process for the writer, and many emotions which were suppressed or buried, start to come through the ink.

The expression becomes deep...

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The Thrill of Waiting For a Letter

The instant email and messaging tools deliver our messages in a split second, but the thrill of opening a mailbox and finally receiving the letter one has been waiting for weeks, is undeniably ...

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Gratitude promotes wellbeing

Gratitude, the feeling of being thankful, is known to increase wellbeing, with studies showing that it:

  • Protects from stress and depression
  • Makes relationships more fulfilling

Gratitude branding

Gratitude has been repackaged and sold by personalities like Oprah, Arianna Huffington and Richard Branson who are touting the benefits of feeling grateful as a universal remedy for everything.

Society and gratitude

Gratitude is a natural feeling humans are equipped with, and the problem arises when there is more of ingratitude in society.

To have the capacity to feel gratitude, you must be able to receive and accept something helpful or good from another person. It helps if this is something you see happening around you from infancy, so you can learn how it works.

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Letters Of Complaint

Be polite. The person who gets your letter will seldom be the one who wronged you. And is unlikely to pass it on to the desired recipient if you are insulting and raging.

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Letters To Friends

Always remember that your job, writing to a friend, is to entertain. That can mean revelling in the odd pratfall. So, don’t just write about the mundane and pleasant things, try to give them the whole picture and make them feel something.

Letters Of Condolence

  • You are extending respect and friendship. Write quickly, and preferably by hand.
  • You’ll want to calibrate what you write to your relationship both with the recipient and with the deceased. Make it personal.
  • If you knew the deceased well, sharing a couple of warm memories will let the recipient feel there’s a shared bond.
  • If you didn’t know the deceased, you can make respectful reference to what you knew of them.
  • Use tact. Don’t tell the recipient how they should be feeling.
  • If you’re finding it hard to know what to say, you can acknowledge that; but don’t harp on it.
  • Avoid operatic, or competitive, expressions of grief.
  • Acknowledge, but don’t belabour, the grief and pain they feel.
  • Focus on the individual excellence of the deceased rather than the consequences of the loss itself.
  • Be tactful of their religion even if you don’t believe in it. 

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Create the conditions to write

Create the conditions to write
  • Make the time for writing. We all have those absent-minded moments in our day when we're not doing anything. If we use that time to write, we can actually get a lot done...

There's no one "right" way to write

Some people plan ahead their and outline their novels, others just jump in a wing it.Experiment, start with something and see what works for you.

Try to show up for your characters. It's not important how you do it, as long as you do it.

Find your people

  1. When you feel a bit stuck, and walking the dog or organizing the closet doesn't help, speak to a friend with a different way of thinking. Or talk to a friend who's writing a book.aaa

  2. You don't just have to stick to friends. Reach out to other writers who can talk through any issue you're having with your book.

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Fan Fiction Writing

Fan Fiction Writing

... is found in the old and popular communities of the internet, working mostly on science-fiction and fantasy literature, with new story arcs of old worlds and characters.

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Familiar Worlds

As the content is based on an existing book, TV show, movie, video game, or something they already love, the participants have a genuine interest and personal identification with the topic.

Distributed Mentorship

Websites specializing in fan-fiction are using the existing bodies of work, playing and tinkering with it, while providing feedback to each other. In this process, the participants are learning and teaching each other to write well. The continuous, constructive feedback helps make fanfiction writing a collective effort, which is sometimes better than the original, in which only one mind was involved.

This kind of vast, community-based learning is called distributed mentorship.

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Expressive writing

Is writing for the purpose of putting your own thoughts and feelings into words and it can be a powerful way to enhance overall wellbeing. 

It focuses on expressing and describing...

Expressive writing activities

  • Try Journaling: Putting words to our emotions often helps us understand them in a new way, and process them more effectively.
  • Schedule writing into your routine: e.g. Morning pages.
  • Find inspiration in music: Put on a random playlist and transcribe the images, memories and emotions that the music evokes for you.
  • Practice letter writing: Unspoken thoughts or feelings can feel like a heavy burden to carry. Consider putting these sentiments into a letter.
  • Expressing gratitude: Writing about people or experiences that we feel grateful for can help us maintain focus on the aspects of life that are hopeful and meaningful.

Writing letters as therapy

Writing letters as therapy

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Letters Of Courage

  • Letters that are just for us provide us with a space for reflection where we have a conversation with our identity, our inner-critic, or our ego.
  • Secret, unsent letters that we write to others, are a one-way communication where we express our inner feelings, desires and emotions in the truest sense, to someone who will never read it.
  • Letter of closure, where we are communicating with the person for the last time, becomes a relic, a lifelong reminder of the realness of our experiences.

Couples living apart

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In 2000, a government survey showed that about 2.7 million married Americans lived apart from their spouse. The number rose to about 3.9 million in 2017.

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The evolution of romantic communication

  • Before video-chat and long-distance phone calls, written correspondence was used to exchange meaningful information. The goal was to write about the most important things that had happened since the last letter.
  • Although the telephone was invented in the mid-19th century, it was only used for long-distance relationships in the 1970s, when the cost of phoning for pleasure instead of just business became affordable.
  • The next major development in romantic communication was the internet. Email, instant messaging, and video-chatting were affordable for couples to share even the smallest details.
  • Many couples today do "background Skype" where everyday living comes to the surface and add to a level of intimacy.

The pressure to live apart

In the past, couples were more likely to accommodate only one partner's job - mostly the man's. But today, couples have dual-incomes, are well educated, professionally minded, and pursuing careers in separate places. It is contributing to the rise in long-distance relationships.

The pressure to live apart for work is worse for younger couples who are still establishing careers.

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Self-love

Self-love

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Self-love vs. other types of self

Whenever you think about self-love, try picturing yourself making a mistake. Forgiving your own mistakes instead of overreacting to them is what self-love looks like.

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  1. Say it fast and do not leave that person hanging.
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Drawing is a Natural Process

For centuries, schools have established the normal, natural process of drawing as an art, like painting. Drawing as a creative process is forgotten and distorted beyond recognition.

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Drawing as a Tool

  • Drawing is a problem-solving visual tool. It helps us think better and provides clarity to a cluttered mind.

  • Authentic pen and paper drawing help us break free from the limiting domains of technology which digital tools like Google image search or drawing software provide, indirectly hindering our creativity.

  • Drawing also makes us slow down, observe and pay attention.

  • Drawing promotes close observation, analytical thinking, patience, and even humility, making it one of the best ways to learn.