deepstash

Beta

How cultures around the world think about parenting

Deepstash brings you key ideas from the most inspiring articles like this one:

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

https://ideas.ted.com/how-cultures-around-the-world-think-about-parenting/

ideas.ted.com

How cultures around the world think about parenting
The crisis of American parenting, as anyone who has looked at the parenting section of a bookstore can attest, is that nobody knows what the hell they're doing. Yet despite this lack of confidence and apparent absence of knowledge, many American parents zealously believe that their choices carve out their children's futures.

4

Key Ideas

Save all ideas

'Controlling' the future

Many American parents believe that their choices carve out their children’s futures. They seek expert advice to attempt to raise the happiest, most successful, and most well-adjusted leaders of tom...

31 SAVES


Fostering independence

In Japan and Norway, parents are focused on cultivating independence.

  • In Norway, most children enter state-sponsored daycare at 1 year old.
  • In Japan, children run errands without...

49 SAVES


Different frames

American parents focus on grooming their children's talents for success. Many Asian nations focus highly on academics, while the Dutch parents believe in not pushing their children too hard.

...

30 SAVES


Competing values

We can't desire to follow the parenting styles of Korean and Dutch and Japanese and Jewish and Norwegian and Spanish, all at once. The values are not the same.

Instead, we should be learning ...

38 SAVES


SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

Baby advice industry

The baby-advice industry targets people at their most vulnerable - at the start of the weightiest responsibility of their lives - and suggests that they have some information that will ensure the f...

The two camps of parenting advice

  • Baby Trainers urge parents to get their newborn on to a strict schedule to integrate him into the rhythms of the household. 
  • Natural Parents emulate the earthy practices of indigenous tribes in the developing world.
Although these two camps are hostile toward each other, we should realize that baby advice is not mainly about raising children. Instead, it is a vehicle to suggest that it might be possible to bring the terrifying unpredictability of the world under control. A brand new baby makes it possible to believe in that fantasy.

    Nobody really knows 

    • For a start, nobody can remember what it was like to be a baby.
    • Most parenting gurus only have direct experience of parenting two or three babies, which isn't much better as a sample size. They can't assume that whatever worked for them will work for everyone.
    • When you have read all the parenting books, your baby will possibly follow an entirely different manual of instructions.

    3 more ideas

    A Child's Mental Health

    A Child's Mental Health

    Various studies conducted in the U.S. population indicate growing anxiety towards a possibly grim future. Political turmoil, gun violence, global plagues, changing power structure and a widening ri...

    Antidepressants And Opioid Epidemic

    Pharmaceuticals are playing a major role in the deterioration of mental health among young people. There is a link between teen suicidal thinking and antidepressant use, along with a link being seen in actual suicides among the young and the use of opioids in their families.

    Smartphones and Social Media

    Across age groups, social media is potentially hazardous, with its tendency to amplify the social divide.

    There is a strong relationship between anxiety/depression and the use of smartphones, particularly social media usage among kids, though the data also seem to show the positive effects of staying connected with their peers. Online distractions also make youngsters give up their offline life, leading to isolation and further depression.

    11 more ideas

    A growth mindset is a desirable thing to have...

    ...so many people declare they have it:

    • If they are open minded and flexible, they said they have it
    • If they are kind to people, they said they have it 

    But a&nb...

    The growth mindset

    ...is the belief that your abilities can be improved through effort. 

    And this means you can get better and hard work pays off.

    Tips for encouraging a growth mindset (in yourself and in others):

    • Don’t praise ability or intelligence: That promotes a fixed mindset. Compliment effort, process and choices.
    • Don’t ignore outcome, tie it to effort: You can be happy about success, but attribute it to effort.
    • Respond positively to failure: Failure isn’t bad, it’s a tool for improving.
    • Don’t just say “Try hard.” Set goals: Blind repetition doesn’t work. 
    • Practice a Growth mindset in all areas of life: There’s no area where they cannot improve with hard work.
    • Share your own Growth mindset efforts: Practice it yourself and share your results.