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How Shift Happens in Our Lives : zen habits
There are a lot of us who would like to change something, but find it difficult to make that change. I'm here to share with you the fact that making a shift like this is absolutely possible, and share how that shift might happen.

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How change happens

  1. You struggle with the decision to change. 
  2. You are finally ready to change. Something clicks for you.
  3. You start the shift, probably with some enthusiasm. 
  4. You...

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Recognizing the need for change

It’s a powerful skill to take a look at your life and see that you need to make a change. 

Often we know we need to change but don’t want to face it. The skill, then, is to get ve...

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Taking the first steps

When you are ready to take action, get good at actually getting started. 

It doesn’t matter how you start — don’t get caught up in indecision and research. Instead, take action. ...

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Encouraging yourself

You will get discouraged or lose motivation at some point. Get good at encouraging yourself over and over again instead of discouraging yourself.

Also, get good at noticing when you're...

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The costs of indecisiveness

  • Not taking action can cost you an opportunity, or cost money and time as you delay.
  • People waiting for you to make a decision can get frustrated.
  • You can feel stress about your...

How we deal with uncertainty

These are some of the common ways we habitually deal with the uncertainty of a decision. But none of them solve the problem for us:

  • Doing some research. 
  • Writing out a pros and cons list.
  • Asking a bunch of people about their opinion.
  • Putting off the decision.

We are uncertain about

  • What the best choice might be.
  • Whether there will be negative consequences of the choice.
  • Whether we’ll look dumb to others if we make the wrong choice.
  • Whether we’ll feel dumb, or ripped off, and regret it for years to come.
  • Whether we’ll be OK if we make the wrong choice.

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What Perspective Taking Is

It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.

By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...

Develop perspective taking

  • Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
  • Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
  • Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
  • Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
  • Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations,  imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
  • Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.

Using perspective taking

When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation. 

By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.

William Bridges

“Change can happen at any time, but transition comes along when one chapter of your life is over, and another is w..."

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The Stages of Transition

The experience of Transition has 4 main stages:

  1. Disengagement: the feeling of separation from what is lost
  2. Disidentification: the destruction of the old identity
  3. Disenchantment: tearing out of the old reality
  4. Disorientation: the feeling of being lost and bewildered by the loss experienced.

Change is Inevitable

Change is the only constant in life.

It is always a certainty and failure to cope with change is not an option.

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