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How to be better at online dating, according to psychology
In some ways online dating is a different ballgame from meeting someone in real life - and in some ways it's not. (Reis points out that "online dating" is actually somewhat of a misnomer. We use the term to mean "online meeting," whether it's through a dating website or a dating app.)

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Take Your Time Making Choices

Online dating greatly increases your pool of potential suitors. But the excess of choice might make you overlook good candidates.

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Choosing The Right Dating Apps

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Data On Online Dating

  • 40% of Americans use online dating as a way to meet new people.
  • 23% of Americans still think using online dating sites is desperate.

Data On Online Daters

  • 53% of Americans lie in their profiles. Women tend to post younger photos of themselves and claim to be thinner, while men tend to lie about their careers.
  • Even on apps known as being for "hook up", most females are looking for a genuine match and not a fling.
  • Two-thirds of online daters have gone out with someone they were matched with.
  • One-third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date. 

Data On Relationships Started Online

  • Relationships that begin online are nearly 30% more likely to break down than ones where couples met face-to-face first.
  • 20% of committed relationships began online.
  • Marriages from online couples are three times as likely to end in divorce.
  • 17% of couples that were married in the last year met on a dating website. 

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Internet And Marriage

At least one-third of all marriages in the U. S. are now between partners who met online and researchers say online meeting-based marriages happen more quickly after the first date.

The Non-Divisive Effect

Before the Internet, dating was mostly restricted by one’s social and geographical limitations with friends of friends being the most common method of introduction. The Internet pairs couples that wouldn’t even meet otherwise.

Research also indicates that you're more likely to date someone from a different race if you're dating online, by a factor of about 7 percent. 

Combating Social Stratification

There's a troubling trend towards exclusive, private membership-based dating apps that only allow very rich or very popular people, essentially creating a dating bubble that socially isolates people by class.

By using less restrictive apps we have the widest possible pools of potential dates, rather than aspiring to something more exclusive, we're keeping ourselves open to more random love connections that cut across lines of race and class and everything else that divides us. We're doing our part to keep society more open, less stratified. 

Male Perception Of Dating Apps

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  • If something feels off, trust your gut.
  • Be wary of anything asking for financial or personal information.
  • Set up an anonymous email account from a widely used email service.
  • Never give out your home phone, address or personal email address unless you absolutely trust the recipient.
  • Drive yourself to the date (protects your address), keep an eye on your drink/food and pay half of the bill.

Online Relationships Don’t Usually Last

  • Over one-third of online dating sites users have never actually gone on a date with someone they met online
  • Relationships that start online are 28% more likely to end in their first year than relationships where the couples first met face-to-face.
  • Couples who met online are nearly three times as likely to get divorced as couples that met face-to-face.

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