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How to Be More Confident
...by growing more comfortable with self-doubt. 

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Putting your knowledge and skills in perspective

Putting your knowledge and skills in perspective

When you're feeling notably uncertain about a something, take the time perform an audit, in the objective terms possible.

Ask yourself: What is my knowledge base, and what are my pr...

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Playing the part

Competency requires practice. It doesn't get easier overnight.

Playing the part doesn't mean to just fake it, even if there are some benefits to that, too. Instead, by diving in...

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Clarifying questions in uncertain situations

When you’re really unsure, asking questions may be last thing you'd want to do, because it could feel like turning on a spotlight when all you want to do is go unnoticed. But masking uncertaint...

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Doubt as a strategy

In the right amounts, self-doubt can lead to self-improvement. For this to happen, you need to be able to identify your weak points without spiraling into despair.

Progress starts ...

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Uncertainty Triggers Fear

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Two Tasks of a Manager

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  • The second task is to provide hope and a sense of possibility to the employees facing an uncertain future ahead.

Steel Yourself

Before any word is uttered to the employees, you need to understand your role and channel your leader 'avatar' in a time of crisis, as if preparing for a battle. Your steel nerves will be contagious(!) to your team members. You need to sound convincing, and it’s a good idea to follow the basics, like eating well, plenty of sleep and regular exercise.

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Picking up what you want to achieve

Picking up what you want to achieve

The first component to achieving something is picking it.

It has to be something tangible, but that is currently not tangible to you: it has to be something you currently d...

Common backup learning styles

  • Imagining: coming up with ideas.
  • Reflecting: learning about the ideas you come up with.
  • Analyzing: synthesizing the ideas you’re learning and making strategic plans about how to use them.
  • Deciding: choosing a specific way to go with a specific idea.
  • Acting: taking action toward the attainment of your idea
  • Experiencing: learning from multiple angles.

Learning and mindsets

  • Most of us have a growth mindset about the learning style that come easy to us. For example, if you like math, you probably believe you can get better at math and you approach challenges and failures in your learning process as opportunities to grow.
  • Also, most of us have a fixed mindset about the learning styles we struggle with. For example, if you don’t like writing, you probably believe you can’t get better at it.

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Helping a loved one

Helping a loved one

Many people try to help a loved one make significant life changes but fail. They may try to help a spouse quit smoking or get a roommate out of an abusive relationship. They may feel that if they d...

Different forms of enabling behavior

Enabling may accidentally happen when you are trying to help, but after an extended period, you realise that you are really helping.

  • Cleaning up after someone is one form of enabling behavior and includes any way of protecting the person from the negative consequences of their own behavior.
  • A partner lies to his in-laws about his wife's drug problem to protect her from embarrassment.
  • A sibling pays his brother's rent because he regularly loses his money to gambling.

It might be okay if it happened once, but if these "rescues" happen repeatedly, they don't get to learn from the cause-and-effect pattern of their behaviors.

Giving someone non-specific help

  • Our loved ones often come to us in a moment of crisis. They're losing their job or need to pay someone back. We sometimes feel we have to give money or bail them out in some form. But after a time or two, you become the consistent rescuer while they continue in their unaccountable ways.
  • Boundaries can be used to stop the cycle, but not letting those boundaries slip is hard. If you put your foot down on not loaning money, don't give in. The person you're trying to help will ultimately feel more secure if they know you keep your word. You're also a good role model for consistent behavior.

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