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How to Be Patient in an Impatient World
Every introductory psychology class talks about this thing called "The Skinner Box." It sounds like something out of a Saw movie, but it's actually a famous psychological method from the golden days of research, back when pregnant women still drank and torturing rats for science was cool.A Skinner Box works like this: A rat or some other unsuspecting small animal is placed in this box which has a lever and a little feeding bowl.

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Waiting patiently

Patience is not the ability to wait for something. Patience is our attitude towards waiting.

And the truth is we are becoming more and more impatient, mostly because we are now us...

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Mark Manson

"Patience wins in an impatient world. When everyone else is in a hurry and distracted by the latest Tweetstorm, sitting back and merely observing the planet’s slow, arcing trajectory–and noticin...

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Learn to be still

Block out time to be still. Finding moments of stillness in our lives increases creativity, makes us more productive and also helps us stay grounded in our emotions.

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Understand your impatience

Impatience could be linked to a deeply-rooted sense of entitlement. Because in reality, we don’t know what’s going on with other people.

Maybe the pizza guy got in a car accident. M...

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The real value of time

Waiting means experiencing a certain period of time without any reward. And we have to truly understand the kind of rewards we are seeking: internal or external.

The true rewards ...

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